spoiler alert: it's you not them or him or her or it or that thing that happened the good news is that you have the control to fix. you can always choose this day, this very moment, to be when you start to change your life. you can always decide to take accountability for your life and mold a path for yourself in a new direction even if you feel like there is no way to make it happen. trust me, l've been there, I am familiar with the void. once you realize it's all up to you, it may feel paralyzing, but what will eventually happen is that you will recognize how freeing it is — to be still so, are you ready to create a life that's all yours?